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My wife and I live in the Portland, Oregon area. We enjoy living in a beautiful region, surrounded by trees, parks, and at the same time close to a thriving urban center. Once the pandemic passes, we hope to open our home again to transgender persons seeking a place to stay while in the area for surgery and postoperative care.
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Wednesday, November 20, 2019

Transgender Day of Remembrance 2019: Speech at Todos Santos Plaza with Rainbow Community Center

Welcome!  I am Michelle Paquette, and my pronouns are she/her/hers.   I am a person who transcends cultural gender boundaries, that is, I am a transgender person. In my case, as in many others, when I was born the regions of the brain that mediate perception of my body didn’t match the sex assigned to my body.  To put it simply, my body didn’t fit my gender identity.  We try to reconcile this as best we can, adjusting our gender presentation, roles, perhaps even through medical care.

This mismatch occurs slightly less often than natural redheads do, a normal if infrequent expression of biological diversity.  Transgender people are normal, if not common, but are also the target of pervasive and persistent violence for simply existing.

"Transgender Day of Remembrance seeks to highlight the losses we face due to anti-transgender bigotry and violence.“, said founder Gwendolyn Ann Smith,  who started this day in 1999 as a vigil to honor the memory of Rita Hester, killed in 1998, and all those killed through violence.  She continued “...it is vitally important that those we lose are remembered, and that we continue to fight for justice."

Transgender people are a living study in intersectionality.  All transgender people can be the target of transmisia,  Transmisia is prejudice plus power, systemized discrimination or antagonism directed against transgender/nonbinary/genderqueer/agender persons.  Historically, 17 percent of all reported violent hate crimes against LGBTQ people are directed against those who identified themselves as transgender.

Now, add into this systemic misogyny, entrenched prejudices against women within this culture, doubly impacting all transgender persons with a femme presentation. About two-thirds of all reported violent hate crimes against transgender people are aimed at transgender women and femmes.

Next, add into this systemic racism, embedded in all social institutions, structures, and social relations within our society, which triply impacts transgender women and femmes of color.  Historically, over 80 percent of murdered transgender women are persons of color.

Transgender Americans experience poverty at double the rate of the general population, and transgender people of color experience even higher rates.  We have an unemployment rate three times the general population, and transgender people of color are unemployed at a rate of four times the general population.   Poverty and unemployment or underemployment impact transgender people’s housing and medical care, and so stability and quality of life. Those without access to stable housing and employment and left out on the streets are most vulnerable to violence.

We have seen the federal government act to permit discrimination against transgender persons everywhere from adoption services, through medical care, and even emergency shelter.  We have seen our government argue in the courts that gender identity discrimination is not a sex related discrimination, and that discrimination against transgender people is perfectly legal.

We have seen the government ban military service for transgender persons, who have served honorably, as I have.  We saw the government try to legally define gender to be irrevocably the sex assigned at birth.

We have seen propaganda campaigns that try to demonize transgender people, as part of a broad campaign to make simply living our lives more difficult.  We have seen a new campaign launched, built on curated misinformation and aimed at transgender children and student athletes.

Allies, no, accomplices, consider what author Imogen Binnie suggested a few years ago on Twitter: ask what the article or conversation would have trans people do. And “if the answer is something like ‘not be trans,’ please consider that most trans people have tried that and it didn’t work.” And if you are having a conversation in public or private that at its core is debating whether a person should exist, please re-consider the value of that conversation.

These campaigns impact transgender youth disproportionately.
   
“Every day they have to hear these terrible things. They are less than a person, they can’t count, they can’t use the bathroom of their choice, they can get fired just for being who they are,” said Alexis Chavez of the Trevor Project.  The Project’s research has shown some disturbing results: More than half of transgender youths have seriously considered suicide; 78% reported being the subject of discrimination because of their identity.

Since January 1 in the United States, 22 transgender or gender non-conforming people were fatally shot or killed by other violent means. We say at least because too often these stories go unreported -- or misreported. 

Worldwide, in the one year period ending October first, at least three hundred sixty-eight (368) transgender persons died in violence.  Thirty of these were in the United States, including deaths from violence under suspicious circumstances, and five more driven to suicide that we know of.

We have been meeting like this for twenty years.  In that time, 3,317 trans and non-binary people have been recorded as dead through violence around the world.   Transgender women of color bear the brunt of this terrible burden. 

The visibility of transgender people can not be denied. We live in your neighborhoods.  We are doctors and lawyers, ministers and judges, sex workers and artists.  We are the same as everyone else.

We are here, and we will not be erased.    We will not be erased.


WE WILL NOT BE ERASED.

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Transgender Day of Remembrance 2018

Here's my little 2 minute 30 second speech from the Transgender Day of Remembrance event held by Rainbow Community Center and Mt Diablo Unitarian Universalist Church at Todos Santos Plaza, Concord, California on November 20, 2018.  Not a real stem-winder, just what I could fit into 2:30 to try and make my point and request some help.   I've been running a one-woman support organization the past year, providing aid with insurance, medical care, safety escorts, housing, transportation, and so on.  Some help from allies would be appreciated!

Good evening!  I was given a topic to speak on; “Why people shouldn’t be erased.”  I see erasure as nothing more than a violation of basic human rights.  Does anyone here really want to debate this?  Is there a “Why people should be erased” viewpoint?

The current administration has a proposal to redefine sex and gender in terms that might be found in a 70 year old elementary school text, claiming this is “science.”  The effect would be to render transgender folks nonexistent at the Federal level, erasure.

This flies in the face of all that we have learned about sex and gender, an absurd attempt to roll back the calendar and force us wholesale back into the closet or worse.

This will not stand.  With our allies we can put pressure on to block this, through legal and legislative means.

Allies!  There are far more of you than there are of us.  Your support is vital for our survival for the next few years.

Anti-LGBTQ homicides nearly doubled in 2017. Violence has spiked with people feeling that they can freely express hatred.

Trans people are particularly vulnerable.  Trans women in particular can often be identified as such on sight and are easily targeted (along with a few cis women!).  Trans folks outed by having to show ID, or even having to speak have been attacked.  

Alies!  Consider helping trans folks.

Escorts to the hospital ER or Urgent Care to ensure proper treatment is given and defend against misgendering and neglect are needed.

Can you type or print neatly, and follow fairly involved instructions? Help prepare court documents for name and gender marker changes, and fee waivers.

Consider contributing to a micro-grants program to help cover food, utilities, transportation, or rent.

Consider providing aid in getting insurance coverage, not money but simply helping someone navigate CoveredCalifornia.com or Media-Cal applications.

Consider helping someone with their wardrobe, getting ready for a job interview.

Consider contributing to a shelter that will take in trans folks without onerous conditions.

Be an ally.  Step up and help out, please.


Shelter:
A WOMAN'S PLACE
Address: 1171 Mission Street, San Francisco California 94103
Phone: +1 (415) 241-1184
Website: http://www.catsinc.org/a-woman-s-place.html
Hours of Operation: 24 hours

Health Services:
LYON-MARTIN HEALTH SERVICES
Address: 1735 Mission Street, San Francisco California 94103
Phone: +1 (415) 565-7667
Website: http://lyon-martin.org
Hours of Operation: Monday/Tuesday: 8:30am – 5:00pm (Closed for lunch 12:15-1:15), Wednesday/Thursday: 11:00am–7:30pm (Closed for lunch 2:45-3:45), Friday: 1:30pm-5:00pm Saturday & Sunday: Closed

TRANSGENDER HEALTH SERVICES (SFDPH)
Address: San Francisco California
Phone: +1 (415) 206-7979
Website: https://www.sfdph.org/dph/comupg/oprograms/THS/default2.asp
Hours of Operation: Contact the SF Department of Public Health

Gender Clinic for Transgender Patients
Martinez Health Center, 2500 Alhambra Avenue, Martinez, CA
Starting December 4th at West County Health Center
Starting December 21st at Pittsburg Health Center
APPOINTMENTS: By referral or call 800-495-8885. This is not a drop-in clinic.
For more information about the clinic, contact Natasha Petit, LCSW, of the LGBT Pride Initiative at 925-374-2185 or Brian Kuennemeier MA, 510-231-9572, ext 5

Other Services
Rainbow Community Center
Clinical services, HIV support, food pantry, thrift store
Phone: (925)-692-0090
Address: 2118 Willow Pass Rd #500, Concord, CA 94520
West County: 6491 Portola Dr., El Cerrito, CA 94530

Contra Costa County’s Mental Health Access Line
Phone: 888.678.727
LGBTQ culturally competent support workers are available Monday through Friday from 8 am to 5 pm. Screening, brief phone counseling, crisis intervention and referral. Contra Costa Crisis Center trained and supportive Counselors are available to provide emergency support:

Suicide Prevention 24/7 800.273.TALK (8255) 800.SUICIDE (784.2433)

Crisis Intervention 24/7 800.833.2900

California Name and Gender Marker Change

https://transgenderlawcenter.org/resources/id/id-please

Sunday, October 21, 2018

Welcome for October 21, 2018 at MDUUC

One of the hats I wear in life is being a Worship Associate at Mt. Diablo Unitarian Universalist Church.  The Worship Associate for a service handles some technical stuff, and also writes a few pieces for each service.  Here is the Welcome I wrote for October 21.  Our subject was Glancing Encounters: How we are touched by our small and random brushes with truths small and large, led by Rev.Takahashi.


Welcome

Welcome.  I am Michelle Paquette, pronouns she, her, hers.

Small and random brushes with truths large and small seems to describe much of our mental life beyond the clockwork of simply getting through the day.  

There are the truths of simple physics.  Some things can be done, and some cannot.  Objects may be easily moved, or too heavy to lift.  Doors may be locked, or open.  There are the truths of everyday life. It’s safer to cross the street at a crosswalk.  Your car may vanish if you leave it in a ‘No Parking’ zone.

Then, there are the truths other people present to us, and the truths we respond with. These are what fascinate me.

We have evolved with certain survival traits, including trying to recognize threats to ourselves.  When we see other people, we look at their faces, and we proceed to overgeneralize from our evolved mechanism to spot emotional states in others.  We see a kernel of truth in others, and we proceed to layer assumptions and judgements atop this, based on cultural conditioning and life experience.

We are going to have expressions on our face as well.  That expression may very well reflect the assumptions and judgements we have made about someone we have just seen.  Others will see this expression, and, well...

That expression we see on someone’s face may reflect what assumptions and judgements they have made about us, or it may reflect internal issues with that curry they had for lunch.

We really don’t know what truth they may be expressing.  We do see it and commit acts of assumption and judgement, even if invalid.

Maya Angelou wrote:  “If you don’t like something, change it.  If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”

I like that.

Our First Principle is “the inherent worth and dignity of every person.”  Our reverence and respect for human nature is at the core of our faith.  We carry the potential to do good, the capacity for observation and reason, and the ability to appreciate all that is around us.  We use our gifts in the service of love, justice, healing, and our search for joy.

Our Second Principle seeks justice, equity and compassion in human relations, and our Third Principle asks for acceptance of one another and encouragement of spiritual growth.

We can apply these principles to the hard work of examining our assumptions and judgements, and finding ways to improve how we perceive the truths others offer us.  We can identify our overgeneralizations, break down our poor assumptions, and remove inappropriate judgements, all of which interfere with our perceiving and exchanging personal truths with each other.

“The thing to do, it seems to me, is to prepare yourself so you can be a rainbow in somebody else's cloud. Somebody who may not look like you. May not call God the same name you call God - if they call God at all. I may not dance your dances or speak your language. But be a blessing to somebody. That's what I think.”
  - Maya Angelou

Again.  There’s wisdom there.


Let’s start this work.  Let’s prepare ourselves to be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud, as we worship together.

Saturday, January 20, 2018

Contra Costa Womens March, January 2018

Contra Costa Womens March    
January 20, 2018
Speech by Michelle Paquette

Welcome!

We gather at the intersection of our many paths through life, with our common needs for freedom; we gather to reclaim our common rights, the right of self expression, the right to live our lives as we see fit, the right to control our very bodies.

Hatred, fueled by ignorance and greed for power, seeks to divide us;  by race, by birthplace, even our path to womanhood!  Divided, they seek to control our lives, even our very bodies!  We are not their property!

Dr. Martin Luther King taught us, “Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."

We gather united by love; love of self; love of friends and family; love of community; love of our country.

We send a message; We will not be divided.  We remain united by love, and are stronger for it.  We refuse to be silent.  We speak with one voice, today and in the voting booth.

  • We Resist attempts to divide us and take away our rights.
  • We Persist in sending our message of love and unity, in today’s action and at the voting booth.
  • We Insist that we have our rights, our hard won freedoms, and no one shall take those from us!

Thank you.